Working with your ex? Steps to make it easier

If you can relate to this, try not to worry too much

If you can relate to this, try not to worry too much. It can be hard to see your ex again, but if you are both willing to put the past behind you and be mature, work won’t be as bad as you think.

Here are four tips that will make it easier for you to work with your ex after a break-up.

Meet Each Other Beforehand

The first time you see your ex after a break-up can be very emotional, so make sure it doesn’t happen at work. Ask your ex if they are willing to meet up for a coffee before work, and stress that you are only meeting up to make working together easier. Talk about the things that you want to discuss, and make sure the meeting ends on civil terms. This will make it much easier for you to be professional at work.

Only Communicate When It Is Necessary

Once you and your ex have met up and discussed your feelings, there is no more reason to communicate with each other. So you should avoid texting your ex or chatting to them at work; just talk to them about work issues when you have to. This may feel difficult to start with, but it will help you to move on.

Focus on Work When You Are at Work

If you see your ex at work, it can be tempting to strike up a bitter conversation with a work friend about them, but this will only bring you down and make you feel frustrated. So try to focus on work while you are there, as this will make you feel more productive and less vulnerable.

Apologise for Any Negativity

This can be very hard, but you and you ex should both apologise for hurting each other in the past. This will make it much easier for you to have a professional and civil work relationship, but that isn’t all: it will also help you to move on and focus on your own happiness.

No one wants to work with their ex, but sometimes it is unavoidable – and it doesn’t have to be as bad as it seems. You just need to have a positive, proactive mind-set that is focused on your own happiness.

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